The Lonely Time

I woke up this morning with the feeling that I’m headed into “the lonely time.”

We’ve been here in Colorado Springs for just over two weeks. We quickly settled into our apartment, getting everything unpacked and pictures on the walls in just a couple of days. We’ve been to a church. We’ve been out with our son and his girlfriend. And today I went to a local Moms In Prayer Group – a beautiful ministry of praying for our kids, and a great way to meet other women close to my age.

But having done this thing called “moving” so many times, I know how long it takes to make female friends. Rarely do I find them immediately. And as we all know, relationships take time.

First, there’s the meeting – I have to be in places where other women are. Moms In Prayer, Bible Study, book clubs.

Then there’s the second meeting – maybe a get-to-know-you coffee or lunch date. That’s where I tell everything about me – my kids, my husband, my faith, what I like to do with my time – and they do the same. An information download.

Then, if that second date goes well, there might be a third. Maybe we go to a shopping mall together, or the other person shows me around town. Or we go for a walk in a park. More information download, as we wiggle our way toward intimacy.

At any point in this process, we may decide to just be acquaintances, and so the journey  starts over with someone new.

Once again, I’m doing all the right things. I’m trying to “put myself out there,” be with other women. I’ll join a book club, say “Yes” to lunch dates, maybe find a knitting group, look for a Bible Study that starts after the holidays.

I’ll remind myself regularly that I’m not alone. I have friends who live far away, but they’re still good friends – I’ll make an effort to stay connected to them.

And I have Jesus, “a friend who sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24).” He’ll never leave me (Deuteronomy 31:6b). So I’m never truly alone.

6 thoughts on “The Lonely Time

  1. Jane November 8, 2019 / 9:10 am

    You’re doing great! Lean on your support network and remember the Fresh Hope network you had in VA. It does get old to do it over and over again but God knew, God is in control and HE is sovereign. He knows your heart and He hears you! Praying for that close personal friend with skin on right where you are!

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    • kbailey374 November 8, 2019 / 9:30 am

      I don’t know what happened to my wondrously worded reply that got lost in password land, but it was the equivalent of “you’ll do great!”

      Liked by 1 person

      • peggyricewi November 8, 2019 / 9:34 am

        I know password land – I lose all kinds of words there!!


      • kbailey374 November 11, 2019 / 6:22 pm

        I don’t know which one of us you meant but I love you too! 😀

        Liked by 1 person

  2. Anne C Snow November 6, 2019 / 4:46 pm

    You will make friends and the best one might be yet to be! Wishing you lots of good “dates”!

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